How can i fit wider objects into my rectum. I have a silicone anal cone but i cannot seem to go any wider
Executive summary
You can increase anal capacity gradually with training tools (cones, dilator sets, manual dilation) plus lubricant, relaxation, and time; multiple sex-toy guides recommend slow, progressive use of anal cones and dilator kits and emphasize patience and hygiene [1] [2] [3]. Medical sources show controlled dilation is also a clinical technique for strictures but carries risks and is usually supervised by clinicians — uncontrolled or aggressive stretching can cause tears, infection, or incontinence [4] [5].
1. How people and sellers describe “getting wider”: gradual training vs. instant tricks
Commercial and community guides present anal training as a step-by-step process: start small, use lots of lube, relax the muscles, and progress only when insertion feels comfortable; products marketed for training include silicone cones, glass dilators, and multi‑piece kits to move up sizes over weeks to months [1] [6] [7]. Future Method and other vendors describe cones as continuously tapering tools that “train the skin and muscles” with color‑coded levels and advise beginning at Level 1 and working up [7] [8].
2. Practical techniques reported across sex‑positive guides
Common practical steps across guides: use copious anal‑safe lubricant, practice relaxation and breathing, start with fingers or slim toys before moving to plugs/dilators, pause at wider points to allow muscles to relax, and add size slowly over multiple sessions rather than forcing a single jump [2] [9] [10]. Some sellers recommend pairing firm glass dilators (to “prime” muscles) with silicone cones (to train the skin) as complementary stages in a program [11] [7].
3. What medical literature and clinical practice add about dilation and risk
In medicine, dilation is an established procedure for narrowing or strictures and is performed in controlled settings with protocols; endoscopic balloon dilation and serial manual dilation can widen the rectum safely when performed by experts, but they are therapies for specific conditions — not casual play — and carry defined risks such as perforation and incontinence if misapplied [12] [4]. Clinical sources note that traditional aggressive anal dilation has been largely abandoned where it produced high incontinence rates, and modern dilation is more precise and often supervised [13] [4].
4. Safety limits, infection control, and material cautions
Sources repeatedly stress hygiene and using non‑porous, body‑safe materials (silicone, glass, stainless steel) that clean easily to lower infection risk [14] [11]. Guides warn against using silicone lube on silicone toys (it can degrade the material) and recommend appropriate lubricants and cleaning methods [14] [6]. Medical and patient‑care pages emphasize sterile technique when dilation is done for health reasons [15] [16].
5. How fast you can reasonably expect progress — timelines and patience
Commercial training guides and health sites present progress as incremental: many recommend using a single size until insertion feels easy (often days to weeks) before moving up, with regular short sessions (several minutes per session, repeated across days or weeks) rather than extended forced dilation [6] [1] [16]. Clinical series for strictures report multiple sessions over weeks or months and sometimes recommend alternative approaches if progress stalls after several attempts [17].
6. When to stop and seek professional advice
If you experience significant pain, bleeding, persistent changes in bowel function, or incontinence, clinical sources say seek evaluation; those symptoms are not just “training discomfort” and may indicate injury or complications that require medical care [4] [13]. Anal dilation in medical contexts is prescribed and monitored — available sources do not recommend unsupervised aggressive widening for nonmedical reasons (not found in current reporting).
7. Conflicting perspectives and implicit agendas in the sources
Sex‑tech and retailer sources (Future Method, Tantus, product reviews) emphasize empowerment, pleasure, and product utility and may understate medical risks while highlighting staged progression and product features [7] [18] [19]. Medical and academic sources focus on procedural safety, complications, and clinical indications — their caution contrasts with marketing language that frames cones and dilators as simple consumer solutions [4] [12]. Readers should weigh commercial enthusiasm (profit motive) against clinical conservatism (risk mitigation).
8. Bottom line and recommended approach
If your current silicone cone feels too wide or you “can’t go any wider” now, available guides uniformly recommend slowing down: step back to a smaller size, practice relaxation and manual techniques (fingers, beads, or smaller dilators), use ample lubricant, and progress only with comfort; for persistent pain, bleeding, or functional change, consult a clinician experienced in colorectal or pelvic‑floor care rather than escalating at home [2] [9] [4].