Are there statistics for women's claim that they want to be dominated or raped

1. What the data actually measure: fantasies, roles, and consensual kink

Most published figures concern consensual sexual fantasies or role preferences (being dominant, submissive, or “switch”), not an expressed desire for nonconsensual violence; for example, a 2014-style survey and clinical reviews report that many women report fantasies of being dominated — figures around 65% are widely cited in secondary writeups and summaries of the Journal of Sexual Medicine work ^{[1] [2]}, while community and clinical surveys of kink practitioners document diversity in roles and motivations rather than an appetite for harm ^{[3] [4]}.

2. Polls and prevalence: what representative surveys show

Population polling gives a mixed but clear signal that a substantial minority embrace D/s (dominance/submission) preferences: a 2015 YouGov poll found 21% of women saying they would rather be submissive in bed versus 4% wanting to be dominant, and reported that about 53% of Americans said they had some preference for dominance or submission in sex ^[5]. Large international and probability samples of BDSM interest find nontrivial interest—one survey synthesis found roughly 35–38% of women reported some BDSM interest ^[6]—but sampling, question wording, and whether desire equals behavior vary across studies ^{[6] [4]}.

3. Distinguishing “being dominated” from “wanting rape” in research and practice

Scholars emphasize that fantasy about being dominated is not equivalent to wanting actual nonconsensual sex; BDSM literature and kink-community research stress consent frameworks (SSC, RACK) and note many participants differentiate eroticized power-play from real coercion ^{[3] [7]}. Academic reviewers caution that fantasies can concern scenarios of surrender or roughness while still presupposing consent and safety, and that survey items rarely — and ethically cannot easily — ask people whether they “want to be raped” ^{[3] [1]}.

4. Measurement limits: frequency, intensity, and representative data gaps

Researchers warn that available datasets often lack nationally representative, nuanced measures: frequency and intensity of fantasies differ and men and women may report similar rates of having certain fantasies at least sometimes even if experience differs in intensity or context ^[1]. Many studies use convenience or community samples (kink practitioners, clinic patients) or broad poll items, so extrapolating to “most” women is inappropriate ^{[4] [3]}.

5. Social context and interpretation: power, attraction, and inequality

Work linking social dominance beliefs and sexual dynamics shows that gendered power beliefs shape how people interpret submissiveness in sex; some women who associate sex with submissiveness report lower sexual autonomy, which complicates interpretation of prevalence figures and points to the importance of social context in these responses ^[8]. Evolutionary, cultural, and interpersonal studies also produce mixed signals about whether dominance is attractive in partners depending on context (short-term vs. long-term) and prestige cues ^{[9] [10]}.

6. Bottom line and reporting caveats

There are solid data showing many women report fantasies of being dominated or an interest in consensual BDSM/rough sex (citations vary, with figures like ~21% preferring submissiveness in one poll and ~35–65% appearing in different studies depending on measures) ^{[5] [6] [1]}. However, there is no reputable evidence showing women broadly “want to be raped,” and both researchers and kink-community sources insist on separating consensual erotic roles from nonconsensual assault; available research is also limited by sampling, question wording, and the ethical impossibility of soliciting endorsement of nonconsensual acts ^{[3] [1]}.